Why Get Pre-marital Counseling?
There are a number of requirements and benefits to a couple getting premarital counseling after they become engaged or in the days leading up to their wedding ceremony. Here are some of the most common ones that our clients come to us with:
- It’s required by the church or clergy performing the wedding ceremony
- The individuals came from broken homes or separated parents, and want to avoid repeating the same mistakes
- To start the marriage off on the right foot, and be more aware of the challenges that newlyweds face
- A possible issue that the couple is already trying to work through, before getting married
- One or both of the individuals has been married before
- Previous divorces
- Financial concerns
- Prenuptial agreements
- Children coming into the marriage from previous marriages or partners (blended families)
- Discounts in marriage fees or licenses, depending on where you live
- Differences in religious or political views
What’s Covered in Our Utah Pre-marital Counseling Sessions?
Building a happy marriage starts with knowing what to expect — both of yourself and of your spouse — and respecting the needs and beliefs of your other half.
During a premarital therapy session, some of the things covered will include expectations and beliefs, like which roles people will play in the family. It’s also vital to talk about how your past or the family dynamics you grew up in affect the way you go into your marriage.
For instance, if you grew up in a single-parent home or had parents that were divorced, there may be different types of behaviors that you’ve modeled, which differ from your future spouse.
More importantly, you’ll learn about how to resolve conflicts. No matter how much you love someone, there will be times when the two of you just don’t agree on things. Developing healthy communication and resolution skills can help you get off on the right foot, so that your marriage can last.
Money is a very important topic to work through. Spending habits, budgeting, and even shopping addictions can cause severe tension and stress in a home. Money is one of the leading causes of divorce, so it’s important to be aware of the challenges you’ll likely face at some point in your lives together.
Although it seems like an embarrassing topic, your sex life and intimacy will need to be touched on as well. Our Salt Lake City or Park City therapists can help to guide you through this seemingly uncomfortable discussion so that you and your partner can define clear expectations on how to physically and emotionally support one another.
Finally, you’ll want to talk about kids: who wants them, when do you want to have them, etc. While kids can’t always be planned out, it’s important that everyone is on the same page when it comes to having one in general. Issues like career goals, infertility, or viewpoints on adoption can strain a marriage.